Five things we learned from being married for five years

Here are five things we’ve learned that helped our marriage grow over the last five years. We are definitely not relationship experts, but these things helped us grow tremendously over the last five years. Hopefully our experiences can bless someone else.

1) Give each other GRACE:

Sometimes Tim SUCKS, but guess what? Sometimes I SUCK TOO!! πŸ€£πŸ˜‚ Give each other the benefit of the doubt. There is no individual on this planet that is perfect. That’s the beauty of it all though. Marriage is literally two flawed people coming together as one. We make mistakes then we help each other get better. πŸ’•

2) Choose PEACE:

Tim and I used to argue like cats and dogs over NOTHING (No… like literally nothing). We used to act a fool for no reason at all. Then one day, we realized we had to make a change. We had absorbed so many unhealthy habits from marriages and relationships we had seen growing up in our families. We both had issues. 😩 We had to break generational curses by going to God in prayer for healing and peace. Then, we decided to choose peace and love everyday. With consistency and prayer, it changed our lives. πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ’•

3) Have FUN:

Dance, laugh, tickle, play video games, go on dates, chase each other around the house naked!!! πŸ€£πŸ˜‚ (If y’all have kids tell them to go to bed!!!) 🀣Have freaking fun! You MUST spend quality time with one another. It’s so important. This is what builds intimacy and bonding. Marriage is what you make it and if you make it fun you will have the time of your lives! Lol #Webestfriends

4) PROTECT your marriage:

Be careful who you vent to about your marriage (Especially if they don’t have anyone 😬). Unfortunately, some people and family members are just wishing your marriage will fail and will give you horrible advice. You can’t trust everyone. We’ve made these mistakes many times. What typically happens is when your storm is over, you forgive your spouse and move on, but they don’t. Seek wise council from successful loving marriages and people who are rooting for yall! Don’t be talkin to no #HATERS about yo boo!! Periodt!! πŸ€£πŸ˜‚

5) Put God FIRST:

If you are a believer, it makes all of these the things mentioned above really easy to do. God’s love helps you give grace, love, happiness and peace to your marriage. This is called agape love. When things get hard or go south, go to God and stay there! Step back and LET GOD WORK in your marriage! Be encouraged. God can do anything. πŸ’•πŸ˜˜

Mr. and Mrs. Harper celebrating 5 years!!

Enjoy our little dance video!πŸ˜‚